I’ve recently been in full self-care mode, nurturing myself back to a better place. And part of that has included binge-watching both With Love, Meghan and Harry & Meghan on Netflix. Say what you will about Meghan Markle, but I found myself deeply moved by her journey.
As someone who works with neurodivergent women on decluttering and organizing, I couldn’t help but see the parallels between Meghan’s story and the challenges my clients (and myself!) face when trying to create a life and home that truly work for us. The themes of boundaries, self-worth, and letting go of external expectations are just as important in decluttering as they are in personal growth.
So, in the spirit of warmth, self-compassion, and a little bit of royal rebellion, here are 8 beautiful lessons we can take from Meghan’s journey so far:
1. You Get to Decide What Belongs in Your Life
Meghan has faced relentless criticism for setting boundaries and walking away from situations that didn’t serve her. But here’s the thing: you don’t have to keep what weighs you down—whether that’s toxic relationships, expectations, or clutter.
The same goes for our homes. If something isn’t adding value, isn’t making you feel good, or is simply there because someone else said it should be, you’re allowed to let it go.
2. Sentimental Doesn’t Have to Mean Stagnant
One of Meghan’s great strengths is holding onto what’s meaningful while still moving forward. She honours her mother’s wisdom, her late mother-in-law’s legacy, and her own past experiences—but she doesn’t let them trap her.
The same goes for sentimental clutter. It’s okay to keep items that hold deep meaning, but they shouldn’t keep you stuck. Find ways to honour them—perhaps by displaying them intentionally or curating them into something you love—rather than feeling obligated to keep everything.
3. Perfection is a Myth—Progress is the Goal
If there’s one thing neurodivergent people know too well, it’s the pressure of all-or-nothing thinking. Meghan’s journey has been anything but smooth, yet she keeps moving forward, embracing imperfect action over getting it ‘right’ from the start.
This applies beautifully to decluttering. You don’t need a perfect home or an aesthetic pantry. You just need to create a space that works for you, in a way that feels manageable. Baby steps count.
4. Boundaries Are a Form of Self-Respect
Meghan has been endlessly criticized for setting boundaries—whether it was stepping away from royal duties or choosing how she shares her story. But boundaries are not selfish; they are necessary.
If clutter is overwhelming your space, or if other people’s expectations are making it harder for you to let go of things, set limits that protect your energy. It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to make your home a judgment-free zone. It’s okay to prioritize yourself.
5. Surround Yourself with People Who Lift You Up
In With Love, Meghan, she highlights the importance of finding people who support you and your vision for life. The same applies when you’re trying to declutter or get organized.
Seek out friends, support groups, or even professionals (hey, that’s me! 🙋♀️) who understand your goals and won’t shame you for your struggles. Decluttering is easier when you have the right cheerleaders in your corner.
6. Let Go of the Story Other People Have Written for You
From the moment she stepped into the public eye, Meghan has been cast in roles that weren’t hers to play. But instead of accepting the narratives others created, she’s taken control of her own story.
When decluttering, many of us hold onto items because of the stories attached—“I should keep this because it was expensive,” “I’ll feel guilty if I get rid of this,” or “What if I need it someday?” But your home should reflect the person you are now, not who you were or who someone else thinks you should be.
Check out this article I wrote about why other people’s advice isn’t always helpful.
7. Rest and Joy Are Not Luxuries—They Are Essentials
Throughout her public journey, Meghan has repeatedly emphasized the importance of mental health, self-care, and doing things that bring joy. This is something so many of us—especially women—forget.
Decluttering and organizing shouldn’t be punishment. It should make your life easier and more joyful. If you need rest, take it. If you need to make the process fun (music, snacks, dopamine boosts), do it. Your well-being matters.
8. You Deserve a Space That Feels Like Home
At the heart of Meghan’s journey is a search for belonging—a place where she can be herself without judgment. That’s exactly what your home should be for you.
Decluttering isn’t about making your home look like a Pinterest board. It’s about creating a space where you feel safe, happy, and at peace. A space that works with your brain, not against it. A space where you can be yourself, without apology.
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Whether you love Meghan Markle, are just mildly intrigued, or don’t care about royals at all, these lessons are universal. We all deserve a life (and a home) that aligns with who we are—not with other people’s expectations.
So, as you go about your decluttering journey, take a little inspiration from Meghan: release what doesn’t serve you, set the boundaries you need, and create a space that truly reflects YOU.
Ready to start letting go of what doesn’t serve you, without the burnout? My online course is here when you are — practical, empowering, and made for brains like yours.
Because at the end of the day, your home isn’t a stage—it’s your sanctuary. 💛
